“14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it[i] to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” – Paul from Romans 12.14-21
“Get over it.” – Christians
I’ve never liked losing. I come from a father who is still a notoriously poor loser. Even at board games so it comes as no surprise that I hate losing too.
If I lose a game of euchre to a couple of friends we’re likely to laugh a little and they’ll make fun of me for losing. It’ll sting a little, but I’m not going to burn the house down over that loss.
My senior year of high school we were knocked out of the basketball playoff postseason by our rivals. I cried in the shower at the gym for what felt like hours and didn’t know what to do with myself for days after that loss.
Anger is another reaction to losing as you can see by any number of drunk stadium fights on any given Sunday after an NFL game.
Or when a group of people lose then protest a presidential election.
While the majority of the protests were peaceful, a few turned violent and that is not acceptable.
However, the returning theme I seem to be reading today is that America has elected a president and now it’s time to move on.
Some Christians I’ve read have literally told people who didn’t want to see Trump as president to stop being whiny babies.
I don’t believe most are saying to get over it with the same maliciousness, but as I mentioned yesterday, it’s an easy thing to say when you’re white, especially a white male. The worst that you may have to face out of this is a personal economic change.
But for many, they can’t get over it because unlike a card game or a basketball game, they had a lot more riding on this loss.
I can’t tell my black friends to “move on” when the man who was just elected (who was endorsed by the KKK) has said at a Detroit rally “What do you have to lose? You live in your poverty, your schools are no good, you have no jobs, 58 percent of your youth is unemployed. What the hell do you have to lose?”
“Look, it is a disaster the way African-Americans are living… We’ll get rid of the crime. You’ll be able to walk down the street without getting shot. Right now, you walk down the street, you get shot.”
He also was a big fan of the “Stop and Frisk” policy in NY that was later ruled unconstitutional because it was unfairly singling out black men. That’s especially a toxic thought considering how high the tensions have been between black men and authorities lately.
I also can’t tell my friend from Ecuador to get over it after his wife was verbally told to “Enjoy it while you can because you’ll be deported soon!” by a man in a Trump tee shirt because:
“When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending their best. … They’re sending people that have lots of problems, and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists. And some, I assume, are good people,”
I can’t tell my Arabic and Muslim coworkers to get over it because Trump said he would ban Muslims until we “figure out what the hell is going on.” He also wants Muslims to register (you know, like the superhero registration act of Captain America: Civil War fame) and that was him walking back an earlier statement about banning Muslims.
I can’t tell me female friends to get over it because…well, that’s probably the most well publicized part of his baggage so no need to dedicate more words to that.
Here’s a link to an article about day 1 in Trump’s America. It’s not going to be easy for minorities. Civil Rights (at least in the short term) seem to have just been set back 50 years.
So yes, there is fear and anger and some of that is coming out wrong as it usually does in the heat of the moment and we need to understand that there is a justified reason for it. Whether you agree with the fear or not, there is legitimacy.
To many minorities the future is uncertain because the past has given us clues to what may be the future.
Christians – instead of telling people to “get over it” or “it’s time to heal” or “stop acting like babies” maybe we could look at this from their perspective and “mourn with those who mourn” and “weep with those who weep” and “if possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”
Because we will not overcome evil with evil but with good.
The world is watching and we need to show them how we Christians can really love and help heal and healing from a loss is never quick nor easy.